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Post #56: Decisions, Descisions...

Post #56: Decisions, Decisions…

Post #56: Decisions, Decisions…

I’ve always had difficulty in making decisions, half paralysed by the prospect of making the wrong choice. So I would avoid the difficult conversations that come with big decisions, and avoid making a choice completely. Then I wouldn’t fail, because I wouldn’t be making the wrong choice. But no decision is still a decision to accept the status quo (and generally stay miserable). But I am not prepared to remain miserable forever. So now I try to make decisions that improve my life.

The happiness flowchart.

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I have this image on my wall in a spot I see multiple times each day. It’s such a simple flowchart and a great reminder that you are what stands in your own way of happiness. Are you miserable? Do something about it!  Actively doing something is better than nothing. And so what if you don’t like the outcome. Make another decision to change it! Just keep moving forward.

Recently, there has a been a spate of friends making big life decisions, and you can’t get any bigger than starting a family. A friend told me the happy news the other day that he and his lovely wife were expecting their first child.  I was genuinely thrilled. It’s such an exciting time for them — and he was as giddy as a schoolgirl. It was wonderful to see him that involved and animated about the whole experience. That’s how babies should be welcomed into this world: wanted and loved.

Making babies is probably the most major life decision you could make. Along the road of life, there’s little notches in time that remind you to take stock and reevaluate things.  And when I hear of an event such as this, it’s only natural to turn inward:

What about me? Do I feel anything, aside from excitement for the happy couple? Perhaps a twinge of envy?

In something as complicated as deciphering my need/want to have children, a twinge of envy would be worth exploring in itself. But there was none. I am genuinely happy with my choice, and our choice to not have children. But that being said, my life is still lacking that je ne sais quoi: and I think it’s adventure.

No choice? It doesn’t matter where you’ll end up

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By taking a peek at my Life List, I can honestly say none of it revolves around caring and nurturing a family of my own. And that’s okay. My Life List is a reflection of what I want to achieve in my lifetime. And it’s constantly being updated and revised so that it fits with who I am as a person.  Jumping off a waterfall? Maybe that won’t always be on my list (the billabong scene from Japanese Story scared the bejesus out of me!). But that does not make me wish anything less than the best for my friend, nor does it completely rule out having the option, in the future, of changing my mind.

Life happens, whether you make the decisions or not. So that’s when you do something: make a smart, informed decision that works for you. Not every decision is going to be right, but the way I like to see it is that your decision can never be wrong, because it was the best decision for you at that moment. You’ve just got to get on with life and tackle the next decision with all the stored knowledge from previous ones.

Barcelona: Tick!

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Post #42: Life List No.63 – Treating Myself to Miette

 Welcome to the forty-second post of the Great Writing Challenge of 2012.
Five days a week for six months, I will be given a topic to write about. The stipulation: it must be 250 words (or more), and positive in tone.
If you would like to suggest topics for me to write about, please email me at TheRebeccaProject [at] gmail [dot] com.

Post #42: Treating Myself to Miette.

I met the Canadian for a gastronomic excursion last weekend, but this time we started with dessert from Miette. Who says you have to eat your meal first?

Beautifully decorated and stunningly presented sweet treats from Miette

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Miette is a beautiful patisserie and confiserie, specializing in making beautiful treats with premium ingredients. The way they display, package and present their goodies is just stunning, and the whole package takes your breath away. 

My local Miette is in the Ferry Building in San Francisco, a mecca for artisanal food and upscale eateries. I have walked past on many occasions, but just never actually purchased myself a treat from there. Until the other day.

The Chocolate Tart and Creme Fraiche Ice Cream Sandwich.

Even on a cold, grey day I opted for the Crème Fraiche ice cream on home-made Graham Crackers. The Canadian went for the Chocolate Tart and it was rich and rather heavy – a perfect complement to the light, carefree ice cream.
High fives on the combo.


Almost gone...

Ah Miette. How I love thee. The problem is, once I cross it off my Life List, then I lack an excuse to continue going back… le sigh.

Post #38: Life List No.68 – Be a Jedi for a Day

Welcome to the thirty-eighth post of the Great Writing Challenge of 2012.
Five days a week for six months, I will be given a topic to write about. The stipulation: it must be 250 words (or more), and positive in tone.
If you would like to suggest topics for me to write about, please email me at TheRebeccaProject [at] gmail [dot] com.

Post #38: Life List No.68 - Be a Jedi for a Day

It has been a sad few days for my American family here, and I shall not go into too much detail for fear of trivializing things. Life can sometimes be so damned serious as an adult, and it sucks to lose people you love. But this is a fantastic, loving family, and I am so lucky to be a part.

So in light of monumental changes and reevaluation of my own life, I want to focus my attention this evening on happy things: my Life List.

When I first saw Maggie’s Life list, I was really inspired. This was more a collection of moments and experiences, and less of a Bucket List. The Life List is about the anticipation and joy of experiencing things you have always wanted to (but often didn’t know that you really wanted), and about connecting with others who can help you achieve something. It’s collaborative, and I love helping others achieve their dreams and have just had two people this week offer to help me with mine. Sweet!

Number 68: Be a Jedi for a day.

Last Sunday, the Canadian and I rocked up to a warehouse in Soma for a lightsaber choreography class. As a massive fan of Star Wars (well, the original ones), I was pumped when The Canadian told me about it. We had no idea what to expect, but ‘go we must’.

And what is involved in a lightsaber choreography class, you ask? Surprisingly, it proved to be quite the workout! The first half hour or so was some cardio and stretching to limber up before we attacked each other with lightsabers. We learnt how to do flourishes and spin the lightsaber around in our hand, and around our body. In much the same way as in dancing classes I took when I was a kid, some of the moves were fine on one side of the body but I struggled to repeat them on the other side. Sometimes left, sometimes right. Bizarro.

The force is strong with this one...

About halfway through the class, we started the saber-to-saber contact with the six initial moves. This is where things really started to get interesting. We switched it up and practiced with different participants, and some were a little more progressed in their saber-to-saber contact. But the Canadian and I held our own (when we weren’t beaning ourselves in the head or the shin…).

We learnt the initial 21 or so moves from the Empire Strikes Back fight scene between Darth Vader and Luke Skywalker, and then ended with meditation. We sat cross-legged in a circle in the darkened performance space, our faces illuminated by our multicoloured sabers.

“There is no self. Only the Force.”

Showing off our new Jedi skills after the lightsaber choreography class

All in all, it was pretty cool experience. Our instructor was dressed in full Jedi get-up and he owned it. He aims to gather a group of people to recreate fight scenes from Star Wars to perform for sick kids in hospitals and what not. I wasn’t as uncoordinated as I had imagined, and had fun geeking out. The only crazy thing was just how sore we were the following day. Beyond sore!

Battered and bruised... but worth it!

We’ll probably head back again next month with some other friends. I can’t have ‘Jedi Master’ on my business cards without a few more Sundays under my belt…

Chairman Bao: the best food truck in SF!

And what good outing with the Canadian is complete without eating amazing food? I am a terrible influence on her. From Soma, we hiked up Van Ness to Fort Mason to enjoy the delights of our favourite food trucks. We had tofu bao with miso greens from Chairman Bao (my favourite of all time!); fried plantains with honey, as well as Peruvian cookies with dulche de leche from the Canadian’s fav truck, Sanguchon.  YUM! I had not tried the food from Sanguchon before, and the cookie was so amazing I was quite literally lost for words. I can’t wait until we head back to Fort Mason there for Off The Grid on Friday nights.

Heaven on earth!

Shortbread biscuit with caramel filling... YUM!

Tick! Number 68: Be a Jedi for a day has been completed. Kudos to the Canadian for suggesting it and for letting me twist her arm into eating our heads off at Fort Mason.

Post #14: Learning a Second Language

Welcome to the fourteenth post of the Great Writing Challenge of 2012.
Five days a week for six months, I will be given a topic to write about. The stipulation: it must be 250 words (or more), and positive in tone.
Thanks to Rai for today’s topic. If you would like to suggest topics for me to write about, please email me at TheRebeccaProject [at] gmail [dot] com.

Post #14: Learning a Second Language

Taking language classes is difficult. I have had about a month off since my last class ended and already, I feel as though I’m starting right back at the beginning. Ah, shade. I find that I’m just not able to retain the words as easily as I used to. Perhaps this is what they mean about getting old…

But with the difficulty comes reward. It’s rewarding to learn new things, meet new people and string it all together. Eventually, I want to be able to converse in German. Why? Just cos. Learning another language and being bilingual is something that I have always wanted for myself.

I enjoy the structure, the sounds I am able to make. I get a real kick out of seeing German word constructions and in seeing what they call things, like die Fledermaus (the literal translation is a flying mouse → a bat). That’s just cool.

One of my favourite things when I meet people who speak other languages is to find out what their animals say: phonetically, English dogs say “woof!”, but German dogs say “Vof!” (and dear friends of mine who actually know how to speak German – please correct me if I am wrong!). It’s the small things like that I find interesting, and I think by being inquisitive, you gain so much. Plus, you look at things with a fresh (and different) perspective.

Do you speak a second language?
Do you have any tips you use to retain the information?

Making a Commitment to My Life List

One of my dreams is to live in Germany.

I adored taking German at school, and loved taking it at university. But it’s been a decade since any formal linguistic training, and I’m itching to get back to it.

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So I’ve made a commitment to improving my German because I enjoy learning, but also because I want to start making some of these Life List dreams happen! I have started learning through the Rosetta Stone program for German, and so far, we’re just covering stuff I already know. I’m interested in seeing if this Rosetta Stone is really as good as they say…

Who knows if I’ll ever achieve #20 and #21 on my Life List, but what’s the harm in trying?

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What is something you have always wanted? What are you doing to make that happen?

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