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Post #71: Fun Runs and Hair Removal

Post #71: Fun Runs and Hair Removal.

My mate, Mary, has signed me up to do my first ever running race – a 3.5 mile – and today was my first day of training. I am basically starting from zero fitness, and this challenge to go from couch to 3.5 miles is rather daunting because I have less than two months to get there. It’s not impossible, but it’s certainly no walk in the park either. Add into the mix that I am not a distance runner. Never have been. Sure, I always managed a top 10 finish in the cross-country race at school, but that was only a 1.7km. And I was much fitter than I am now. What I will be attempting is almost 6km! This is a Big Deal for me.

l was all excited to kick-start my new training regime over the weekend, but for two whole days I put it off because… I had to shave my legs. Let me say that again. I didn’t go to the gym because I had some seriously hairy pins. That’s the lamest excuse in the world, Bec! And one I have used so rarely before (yoga pants, Bec?). One of my favourite bloggers, Liv Hambrett of A Big Life, wrote a whole piece about female body hair recently. I get around looking far more like Emer O’Toole than runway smooth, and I’m cool with that. Mostly. It’s my choice, but really it’s the default of a lazy woman like yours truly. Liv’s right — it’s not really a choice anymore but an expectation.

From the moment I started shaving in high school it was such a chore. Over the years, I have alternated between shaving and waxing in addition to keeping things au naturale. Each have their pros and cons. Waxing requires you to be in the same place for a while (which wasn’t possible whilst I was travelling) and it’s not always cheap. Plus, you can’t see just any old waxer. You must cultivate a relationship with the woman who has the potential to cause you an inordinate amount of pain and who will see the parts of you that are never exposed to sunlight. Shaving, on the other hand, is relatively pain-free (aside for my habit of scraping old blades up my shin) but the drag is that it takes so long. I’m just shy of 6 foot. That’s a lot of leg right there. And it grows back in a heartbeat. What should be a once-in-a-blue-moon landscaping session becomes a twice-a-week long hard slog in the bathroom with sharp instruments. Letting my wild mane/s grow is liberating, but sometimes, you need to be liberated from the liberators as well.

I bought an Epilady in Ireland, ready to banish the hairy behemoth I’d become. Dreadful. I took Neurofen Plus (science’s over-the-counter gift to us), drank heavily and still could only bear half a lower leg. I’ve also tried some of the Nad’s at-home wax, but there’s something remarkably difficult about waxing your own parts that you never comprehend when you’re standing in Walgreen’s. And then when I was back in Sydney just before my visa was approved, Mum was super generous and bought me a few sessions with the laser lady. Despite the woman’s well rehearsed guarantee, it all grew back and now I’m back at square one. Le sigh.

Speaking of which, what methods do you find the most successful for removing hair?

This is ultimately not just about hair and its removal. It’s about conquering my fears.

My reticence to start training is less about the ‘unsightly’ hair as about conquering the little voice inside me that says that I can’t do it. The little voice that reminds me I ate an entire Ritter Sport on Sunday… in one sitting. The little voice that says it’s okay to be unfit, and you can still fit into (most of) your clothes. But I want to be better than that! I want to be fit, and not plan my route around the city according to the smallest hills possible.

I want to feel better about myself. I want to run in this race and finish for myself. To show that little voice that I can achieve things I set my mind to. I am not going to let a little thing like hair stop me from at least trying to achieve this goal for myself.

Post #70: The Characters of my Neigbourhood

Post #70: The Characters of my Neighbourhood.

People come to San Francisco for many reasons: a chance of employment and opportunity, the temperate weather, the lifestyle, the food. I came for love. But there’s always one thing each of we non-native San Franciscans have in common: we came seeking a fresh start, a chance to build a new life for ourselves.

San Francisco is a city of reinvention. You can be exactly who you want to be in this city. You can make yourself into a caricature of yourself, someone completely different or an enhanced version of yourself. It’s as though San Francisco put an ad in all of the newspapers around the nation, saying:

“Send me your creatives, your hippies, your LGBQT, your artists, your writers, your techies, your entrepreneurs and I’ll envelop them in love and acceptance and opportunity. Here they will meet other members of their tribe, and can carve out a niche in a supportive and loving environment. This is my promise to you.”

It’s a strange confluence of people and ideas and lifestyles. Yet it works, because SF people are tolerant, supportive and respectful of their fellow people. And most lean a little left. San Francisco is a little bubble of realness, progressiveness and normalcy in this crazy nation. And that brings its own problems, but that’s a story for another time.

So as you’d imagine in a city where you can be anyone or anything, that there’s plenty of characters in my neighborhood. My area lacks that certain ‘neighborhood’ feel and is a strange conglomeration of tourists, art students, young singles, young couples on a budget, and those that have inhabited the buildings since most of them were built in the 1910s and 1920s. My building manager is a sweet woman with a penchant for cigarettes, no laces on her sneakers and wears her much-loved shoulder-paded blazer on even the warmest San Francisco days. She has a cat named Simone that hisses at me each time I encounter her in the hallways. Nevertheless, I always greet Simone with a cheery “Hello, Simone!”.

Downstairs, there lives an old woman in an apartment behind the lift. For the first year I lived here, I never saw her when it was sunny outside. Consequently, I refer to her as the Vampire Lady. She is never seen without her red stylised turban and matching old-lady-shopping-cart. She looks as though she’s lived a disciplined life, and I’ve never been able to pick from where exactly in the world her accent is from. I imagine she’s a former ballerina from one of the countries in the Soviet bloc. She’s long since lost the graceful movements of a ballerina, and now lives subterraneously and shuffles around during the non-daytime hours.

When I was imagining my new neighbour before we had moved to The City, he was the stereotypical San Francisco neighbour: a gay hairdresser. And bingo! My neighbour is a gay man in his late 40s who works as a hairdresser in a spa of one of the major hotels in the area. He loves riding his motorbike around town, and I’ve had remarkably long conversations with him about the weather. I know so little about him, but that’s the way he likes it.

There’s a bloke in an apartment diagonally across the road who has very similar TV viewing habits to us. Law & Order, baseball, football, baseball, Law & Order. Only he likes to follow the sporting matches with about 45 minutes worth of porn. Lights off, blinds open. We call him Porn Man.

The apartments directly opposite us have interesting folks. One guy drops lit fireworks out of his window, and gets a kick out of freaking out the people on the street below. Another guy has nothing but a bed, a desk and a Mac Book Pro. Another person has cardboard taped to the windows, but I can still see that there’s Fox News playing on a plasma screen 24 hours a day.  I think the girl who lives in the larger apartment with the great French doors is a flight attendant.

But the most fascinating person is one who lives diagonally opposite. Living in San Francisco, you are acutely aware that not everyone fits into the rigid male or female concept of sexuality. So I use the she/he designation for this particular neighbour because he both exists as a male, as well as a female. Sometimes she leaves her apartment dressed as a woman with a wig, other times dressed as a woman with no wig. But lately, we’ve been seeing him more often dressed as a man. It’s always interesting to see how he’s/she’s feeling — I think that dictates the external appearance. Nevertheless, she always looks a little disheveled, with her makeup smudged, her wig is often on wonky, and she wears ill-fitting dresses. Her choice of clothing skews young and she gravitates towards anything pink and purple. Preferably together.

But no matter if she’s presenting herself as a woman or as a man, the first thing people see is the permanent scowl. She/he generally seems unapproachable. We have seen her around town, having coffee on Polk Street, and buying her groceries. She/he smokes out in the alleyway across the street, alternating between pacing up and down the pathway, and sitting on the gutter. Rarely does she/he engage with the other smokers out there from the bar next door. Sometimes I think she’s trying to reach out, but there’s a real disconnect between craving people’s company and the tough sour exterior she/he displays. It’s sad that she/he seems so melancholy. I’ve always wanted to go up and speak to him/her and find out more about her life, but the tough exterior keeps me at arms length.

Post #69: A Day on the Bay

Post #69: A Day on the Bay

A few weeks back, a fellow Aussie who happens to live in my building (small world!) invited me to come sailing with her and her friends. How could I possibly refuse an invitation like that?

We made our way to the marina in Alameda, and met up with the group that was ready to spend the afternoon deep in interesting conversation, good food and wonderful weather. I was ready to hoist and winch and pull, but turned out it was less sailing than boating. But in the scheme of things, it didn’t matter. Sometimes it’s lovely to be driven around and I can put my feet up and enjoy the experience.

How the other half lives.

On board, we were a rather international bunch: Two Aussies, one from Tahiti, Iran, France, Spain, the US and the list goes on. We had all sorts of things in common and it was great to throw myself into a new situation with people I’d never met before. Each person on that boat was a stand up character. The whole day was charmed.

The Bay Bridge is underrated.

I took far too many photos, but is there ever a time when taking too many is a bad thing?

Great adventures with quality people.

The Port of Oakland: up close and personal.

So many thanks to the Aussie for the invite (she’s one of the best connectors I’ve ever met!), the Tahitian for being such a gracious host, and the rest for being themselves and sharing time with me.

The Bay never fails to take my breath away.

PS: I’ve been fiddling around with PhotoShop lately, and would like to thank PuglyPixel for her photo templates. Still very much learning how to use it all, but what do you think? A better way to display photos?

Post #68: Eurovision Solves Everything

Post #68: Eurovision Solves Everything.

Before I left home to travel the world, I was very attached to my zippy little Purple Flash.  I’d cruise around Sydney singing unabashedly along to my CDs, and my favourite CD to sing along to (often phonetically) was the yearly Eurovision Song Contest. So kitschy and totally cool. And each year, I used to have to order them from Dymocks. That’s dedication.

My love for the Eurovision Song Contest goes way back. I vaguely remember catching the ESC on SBS one night and being enamoured with their europop tunes, their obsession with white costumes and regionally biased voting. Some very famous performers have strutted the ESC stage over the years: ABBA won for Sweden in 1974 with “Waterloo” while our very own Olivia Newton-John sang for the UK  that same year, Celine Dion won the competition in 1988 for Switzerland, and Tatu performed for Russia in 2003. It’s a highlight each year for me.

Tonight, I was feeling a little down and I thought about the joy these three-minute pop songs used to bring me when I’d go driving. And they still do. So I revisited my love of all things Eurovision and danced my butt off around my living room (ie the patch of floor that has a rug on it– it’s a space delineated by not being covered with a bed).

As you’d expect, most of the entries sound better on the studio-produced official CD than they do live. There have been numerous tragic outcomes of live performances: the UK’s Jemini takes the cake. Painful!

Here’s my top six dance songs from the Eurovision Song Contest from the last few years that are great for energy and good vibes:

1. Verka Seduchka (Ukraine) – “Dancing Lasha Tumbai”

Verka is amazing. AMAZING. I love the madness and this never fails to make me smile. “Weiter, weiter!”.

2. Scooch (UK) – “Flying the Flag”

When we lived in Ireland, I was able to vote for the first time in the Eurovision Song Contest. And surprise! I voted for this song. These guys have just the right amount sass and sauce, and super costumes.

3. Neli Ciobanu (Moldova) –  “Hora Din Moldova (Dance of Moldova)”

The entry of Moldova into the competition in 2005 was fantastic.  They always have great songs, and this one is one of their best. It has an interesting sound, and the perfect beat to dance around in a Moldovan circle (whatever that may be).

4. Tina Karol (Ukraine) – “Show Me Your Love”

She’s cute and feisty. I’m a sucker for accents, and she wants you to “show me chor luf”. I’m sold!

5. Sakis Rouvas (Greece) – “Shake It”

Hellllllooooo, Sakis Rouvas. Shame about the live sound (offset by the fact he presents well and is in white), but this song was memorable in my understanding of the Euros’ love for costumes under costumes.

6. Trackshittaz (Austria) – “Woki Mit Dem Popo”

Austria stopped competing in the ESC for a few years earlier in the 2000s, but I am really glad they decided to return (and I still maintain Alf Poier is perhaps the country’s greatest national treasure). If they didn’t return, we wouldn’t have europop gold like “Woki Mit Dem Popo”. You’ll be singing it long after you close this browser.

If any European country is interested in having me perform some cool, kitsch song for 2013, just holla! I’m already there!

Post #67: SF Half Marathon

Post #67: SF Half Marathon

Today, I witnessed something inspiring. In the cold, damp San Francisco summer morning, I saw the Canadian push herself harder than she ever has before: 13.1 miles of pushing. Her first half marathon ever. Half MARATHON. And she triumphed.

With so much exuberance and joy surrounding me in Golden Gate Park today, it was infectious. You could have signed me up for the next marathon on the spot!

My friend, the Canadian, is a winner.

The Canadian in action.

The Canadian has worked hard, real hard. She has modified her life to get healthy and committed herself to boot camp at ridiculous o’clock in the morning. She ran up and down the Oakland Hills with an 18-pound weight vest on in sweltering conditions. She ran rings around Tiburon, and got lost on trails full of mountain lions at the Lafayette Reservoir. And she looks good. Healthy, fit, and full of vitality. I am really proud of her commitment to this goal, and for completing it.

The SF Marathon App was a fantastic resource I used in the lead up to, and during the race. It listed the route the runners were taking, news, results, and schedules. The best part about it was the tracking feature. A marvellous benefit for spectators like myself, because it enabled me to track the Canadian’s progress in real-time. When it comes to tech stuff, San Francisco is the real deal.

I salute you, Canadian, for inspiring me to push myself to do something like this.

Her first half marathon under her belt, with another scheduled for November.

Post #66: The Mental Pod

Post #66: The Mental Pod.

Sometimes, life is hard.
And sometimes, you just have to acknowledge that life is hard and being an adult sucks.

Today I was reminded of a poster I used to see hanging somewhere at my high school. It had the photo of a cute cat with a message written over it along the lines of ‘nothing is so bad that you cannot talk about it’. It stuck with me.

Nothing.

One of the ways I have found cathartic in dealing with wavering states of mental health, both my own and others, is by listening to the Mental Pod. The weekly podcast is the brainchild of comedian Paul Gilmartin. He’s not a therapist, but he does a damn good job of uniting all kinds of people and talking about the sensitive issues surrounding mental health. I truly admire his openness and his honesty.

“It’s not a doctor’s office. Think of it more as a waiting room that doesn’t suck.”
–Paul Gilmartin

Each week he interviews guests on the Mental Pod and encourages them to talk about their life, experiences and thoughts. It’s the only podcast I regularly tune in to. It’s enlightening to hear Paul talk about living in the up-and-down world of a person with mental health issues because I come from a world where these things were not really not discussed.

I prefer listening to his female guests (I feel a greater affinity with the struggles of the female mind), but I enjoy hearing male guests pinpoint something deep and dark I have within myself. The irrational fears we all have transcend our chromosomal differences. The best part of the podcast is towards the end: Paul and his guests have a fear-off and a love-off where they trade their own secret fears and loves. It may not sound like much, but when you have someone else verbalise your deepest, darkest secrets, the shame evaporates.

You feel that, too? I’m not alone!

I love how people in San Francisco leave you notes at the crossing. It’s a city that has many mental health issues.

So much of western culture is about appearances. When people ask you how you are, you respond “Great, and you?”, without pausing to consider how you really are feeling. Melancholia is not an acceptable state to declare yourself in. But that all changed after I started listening to the Mental Pod. Paul Gilmartin has made it okay to say “pretty lousy”, or “this week has been a little rough, because I’ve been feeling depressed”. I still continue the standard lines (“I’m well”) with acquaintances, but for my family and close friends, I tell it to them straight. And I have felt such a swell of goodwill, love and affection. I am being real and they are more inclined to be real in return.

Check out the Mental Pod podcast on iTunes, or stream it through the Mental Pod website.